Christian Teenage Dating Dilemma – My Boyfriend Wants To Have Sex, What Do I Do. I Know I shouldn’t But I Dont Want To Lose Him
This Christian teenage dating advice is for you if your boyfriend wants to make you have sex.
If you are a Christian teenage girl dating and you find yourself in a situation where your boyfriend wants to have sex and is putting pressure on you to sleep with him, then this Christian teenage dating advice is for you.
If you find yourself in this kind of situation then it means that you are in a very dangerous place, the chances are that you have already crossed some sexual boundaries that you shouldn’t have crossed and now he wants to take it further.
Deep down within you, you know that you are not ready, you know that it is wrong for Christian teens dating to have sex before marriage. You know that the bible says it’s wrong but you still find yourself thinking about it and wondering whether you should just do it anyway and ask God to forgive you later lol!
You might feel pressured to have sex with your boyfriend because you feel like the two of you are in love and that you are going to get married in the future so that should make it okay. You might also feel like if you don’t sleep with him then he will leave you for another girl that will have sex with him and you don’t want to lose him.
You might be saying to yourself that Christian teenage dating is too complicated because your unsaved friends at school are probably already having sex with their boyfriends so why can’t you?
My advice to you is that if your so called “Christian” boyfriend truly loved you then he wouldn’t be trying to make you disobey the word of God, true love waits, if he truly loves you then he should wait until you are both married to have sex with you. But let me be honest with you, most Christian teenage dating doesn’t end in marriage. So if you sleep with him just know that the chances are that you giving your most prized posession (your body, your temple ) to someone who is going to leave you in the end anyway – is it really worth it?
I remember as a Christian teenager thinking that I was going to marry my first girlfriend, and even though we dated for about 5 years (off and on), the relationship like most Christian teens dating discover ultimately ended in heartache for the both of us but more for her because as a teenage guy then; I did some pretty dumb things to hurt her but then I didn’t know any better.
My guess is that your boyfriend as a teenager will end up doing some pretty dumb things to hurt you as well even though he might not mean to. My guess is that this teenage love affair like most will end up breaking up and if you have sex with this guy you would have sold yourself cheaply and he will end up telling all his friends about how he slept with you in detail (even though half of it will be lies.) Think of the embarrassment this will cause you.
I can guarantee you that you will regret having sex with him if you do it, you will feel guilty and it will really affect your relationship with God. Once you cross the sex barrier it makes a relationship more complicated, you might later discover that the relationship is not healthy and you really should get out, but it becomes difficult to break it up because you’ve already slept with eachother and feel attached.
As a Christian teenager dating, I know you are faced with a lot of peer pressure and you are exposed to t.v, music and other sources that encourage sex before marriage, but always remember that you are different, you are not like everybody else, you are Gods child and Gods children have so set an example to the world by being different, by not conforming, by living holy lives.
Trust me sex is only fun In marriage, if you do it outside of married you will feel condemned, you will feel guilty, you will constantly be repenting and asking God to forgive you, promising God that it will never happen again but sadly once you’ve crossed that boundary it keeps happening. You will be constantly worried about getting pregnant and that is serious stress especially if your period is late!
There is the REAL danger of sexually transmitted diseases and unwanted pregnancies, I know you say to yourself that it won’t happen to you but the people that caught sexually transmitted diseases or had an unwanted pregnancy thought it wouldn’t happen to them either, look where it got them, you might probably know a couple of people who find themselves in this situation with a sexually transmitted disease or a pregnancy that they didnt plan for. If they knew it would happen to them they wouldn’t have had sex.
So I hope you understand what I am saying and I hope as a result of this advice you decide to do the right thing so that you can make yourself and God proud. And if your boyfriend keeps trying to force you to have sex you better leave him and kick him to the curb, it means that he is no good and is only after one thing and once he gets it he will dump you and look for his next victim.
So keep yourself pure, keep your innocence, keep your virginity for someone who really deserves it and only your husband deserves your virginity. And remember the ultimate Christian teenage dating rule: True love waits.